The Resignation Letter
What is the cost of outsourcing one's ethical and emotional life to a job title?
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Reflections On The Ones We Lost
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Diaspora Grief – Notes from the dark continent
He asks me where I am from and I tell him, Kenya. There is immediate sadness on his face and after looking at me directly through the reflection in the…
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The Cost of Safety
Sunday noon. Church service ends and the congregation spills downstairs from their rented room in the school’s cafeteria for a mingle. It is an English speaking church, attracting internationals living…
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This sadness does not belong to you
The sadness remained, but it felt smaller, somehow lighter, now that a stranger had named its true owner.
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Why Did He Go Out and Die Like That?
In cases of suicides, what is required is deeper communal healing work that goes beyond messaging of solidarity, hope and calling on experts. Most are really gone by then, already checked out of a miserable life, simply waiting for a final trigger that will hand them the permission to check out. If there was ever a metaphor for a death wish, then suicide is its manifestation.
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The Unseen Grief of Career Death
The corporate man doesn’t just lose his career; the loss extends beyond a paycheck. It is a combination of so many other things. Relationships, access, the activity, the busyness that gave our lives a sense of importance and loss of a secure future. The physical death in comparison seems to be a kinder prospect.
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Baba’s Gone: The Missing Chapter. Part 2
Amollo taught us how to hold pain and transform sorrow into strength. He was our grief alchemist who turned suffering into blessings.
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The Hollow Man
“You think you are grieving because you lost a wife, a house, your children. Children - you can repair the relationship. The bigger problem is understanding what you truly lost. You lost yourself a long time ago. Your worth is tied to the validation of these women, your wife, and the other woman. The man you were trying to be for them… where is he now? Who is the man that existed before the title of husband?”
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The Alchemy of Brotherhood and Grief
To my brothers, who heard the suppressed cry, The heavy, muffled cough in my voice, When my world collapsed and turned all grey, When the clock of my soul froze…
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