masculinity - Oyunga Pala

The Unseen Grief of Career Death

The corporate man doesn’t just lose his career; the loss extends beyond a paycheck. It is a combination of so many other things. Relationships, access, the activity, the busyness that gave our lives a sense of importance and loss of a secure future. The physical death in comparison seems to be a kinder prospect.

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The Hollow Man

“You think you are grieving because you lost a wife, a house, your children. Children - you can repair the relationship. The bigger problem is understanding what you truly lost. You lost yourself a long time ago. Your worth is tied to the validation of these women, your wife, and the other woman. The man you were trying to be for them… where is he now? Who is the man that existed before the title of husband?”

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Society

The Sex Museum

We now live in a world where the driving force of technologies that define everyday life are pioneered by the military and the porn industry. Pornsites are able to accumulate data that helps them create content that appeals to precise tastes. To put things in perspective, 125 million people visit Pornhub daily and its not even the pornographic site with the most traffic.

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Culture

A Meditation For Winter

[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”] [et_pb_row admin_label=”row”] [et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text”] I am wondering what to teach my children about winter. Beyond telling them that it is a cold weather season that black people…

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Culture

Raising A Pandemic Baby

Photo by Marc Nielsen Styled by Brian Babu Concept by Fancy Fingers

Parenting psychologists generally assert that the first three years of a child’s life are foundational. How many fathers become absent in the early stages of infancy only to return bearing gifts and engaging in remedial parenting hoping to catch up on lost years over a series of fun weekends? Gabor Maté explains that children have an attachment need and in the absence of a nurturing adult to attach to, they tend to fill the void with a peer group.

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Society

The Making Of Fatherless Nation

In reality, the Fathers of our Nation are more often than not tragic hero figures consumed by hubris, drunk on power, and entrapped by personality flaws. The result is the persistent violence and brutalization of a nation of children who might dare to challenge their legitimacy.

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Culture

The Shame Of Broken Men

The seeds of shame are planted in childhood. Children grow up with no capacity to deal with shame other than to sink into bouts of denial that follow them to adulthood.

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Simply Kenyan

Grow a pair

Life is bound to test us in ways we can never fathom and overwhelm us in a moment however in an instance, a man must make a decision. It is natural to be afraid but still one must act even when their hands shakes and their voices tremble. Courage is that corner stone virtue that defines the character of men. It is a halfway house between fear and recklessness.

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Simply Kenyan

Why Every Man Needs A Mentor

All men need men who can build them up, edify them, strengthen their characters. When those boys become grown men, they too will build up others and one by one, our communities are rejuvenated.

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